I Want Control of My Emotions and Better Self-Esteem
Emotions are an important part of being human—they tell us how our environment is affecting us, and they help us navigate social interaction. As central as emotions are to our sense of self though, we should always remain in control of our emotions, rather than letting them control us. All too often, we struggle to process what we’re feeling and deal with it in a healthy way, and as a result our emotions rule over us.
One of the ways that this manifests is low self-confidence. When we’re bad at managing our emotions, they come out in negative ways, hanging over us and telling us constantly that we’re not good enough or that we don’t deserve other’s time and attention.
This problem stems from a failure to make a balanced evaluation of the reality of a situation. When you haven’t trained up a particular set of fundamental cognitive skills, it’s harder to accurately evaluate your feelings and your place in the world.
Luckily, it doesn’t have to be this way. By identifying and training the skills that govern these areas, you can learn effective emotional management and build a foundation for healthy self-esteem.
Root Causes of Emotion and Confidence Issues
Improving your ability to maintain self-esteem and a healthy emotional balance starts with identifying which skills you need to work on. These include the following:
- Shape Recognition is how well you recognize familiar shapes and objects. Developing this skill involves learning to better use that part of your brain for anticipating and communicating meaning. It helps with describing and defining your emotions and builds abstract recognition.
- Direction and Orientation helps to understand the logic behind relationships in the environment. This makes giving and receiving directions easier, and makes it simpler to grasp social proximity and priority.
- Classification and Categorization is how you organize ideas, objects, actions, and emotions. Grouping your thoughts and emotions builds your understanding of them and helps you know which ones should be prioritized, filed away for later, or discarded as unimportant.
- Environmental Awareness helps you build mental templates for dealing with similar experiences, as well as helping understand how things are related to one another. With this skill you’re better able to learn from and interpret the environment, so you can form accurate impressions rather than conflicted emotional responses.
- Motor Integration is being able to bring together other skills to develop plans and strategies that integrate the information you’ve collected with the goals you’ve set and the emotions you feel. When you develop this ability, you learn how to suspend emotions to view information from different perspectives instead of from only one emotional bias, and you figure out how your emotions fit into your plan without letting them dominate it.
Improving Your Emotional Management and Self-Esteem
The first step to overcoming difficulties with emotions and self-esteem is to figure out which skills specifically you need to work on. Once we’ve evaluated that, we set up a personalized training regimen for you that features both one-on-one coaching and at-home activities including puzzles and daily planning.
By improving on these skills over time, you reap the long-term benefits of equipping your brain with healthy, effective ways to deal with emotions. This will not only make parts of your life smoother in a practical way, but also improve your confidence.
For example, you may find that though you feel a lack of confidence, people don’t see you that way, and so you’re able to plan how you proceed based on that instead of on emotional speculation.
This allows you to control your emotions and not the other way around—just another way that Critical Thinking for Success will always help you strive to realize your full potential.