I Want Better Social Skills
People often repeat that famous saying, “human beings are by nature social creatures.” Yet while it may be true that most people tend to be oriented toward wanting social interaction, this doesn’t at all mean that sociality comes easily to everyone.
One on one, you might have trouble reading people and understanding their emotions. In groups, you might have trouble understanding the dynamic and knowing how to act. As a result, social interactions feel uncomfortable. Or maybe they don’t feel uncomfortable, or particularly bad at social interactions, but you feel like you could be doing better at your career if only you were better at networking and public speaking.
In our highly-connected modern world, our days are filled with social interactions, and trouble navigating them can be a major obstacle to your ability to live the comfortable, fulfilling, engaging life that you want. This problem most vividly affects those diagnosed with cognitive disorders like autism, but it also impacts all sorts of other people from all walks of life with different levels of severity.
There’s good news though: social skills can be built up with time and practice. You simply haven’t fully developed the cognitive skills that are the building blocks of good social skills. With proper training, you can bring these to their full potential and overcome any struggles with social interaction.
Root Causes of Social Interaction Issues
Social skills can be improved by developing a specific set of cognitive abilities. These include shape recognition, direction and orientation, and pattern recognition:
- Shape Recognition is your ability to immediately recognize familiar shapes and objects. That may sound simplistic—you know what a triangle or a square is—but this skill has more to do with using that part of your brain to anticipate and communicate meaning. For example, this skill is integral in speed-reading, as you learn to recognize shapes of letters and words and extract meaning from them without conscious effort. So too does it serve as a first step in learning to intuitively read social meaning.
- Direction and Orientation provide logic to relationships within the environment. That means not only do they help you understand physical relationships necessary for giving directions and reading maps, they also assist in understanding social proximity, delegation, and information management.
- Pattern Recognition, also known as rule induction, helps to identify patterns in the environment and create rules and templates for how to process complex or repetitive information without much conscious thought. For example, you can train yourself to identify social cues to more intuitively understand social relationships and navigate them with less effort.
These skills being underdeveloped directly contributes to difficulty with social situations.
Improving Your Social Skills
At Critical Thinking for Success, we help you identify which of these skills you need to improve, and then we coach you in them by providing a mental training regimen. This regimen includes regular in-person sessions, daily copy drawing and puzzles, and other activities that help your cognitive abilities grow in the long-term.
Acquiring proficiency in these skills will develop your brain’s neural pathways and make many tasks easier, including social interaction. You’ll be better at communicating effectively, and will be a better negotiator and judge of social circumstances.
If that sounds like the sort of self-improvement you seek, contact us for a consultation and begin training your brain today.